The 5 Tips On How To Ask Someone Out For Coffee (Read This First!)

Last Updated on April 4, 2022 by John Moretti

Coffee is a social catalyst. Almost nothing brings us together better than a hot cup of well-brewed coffee. It opens the door for conversation, provides a point of connection, and the comfort that comes from drinking a warm mug of it may be enough to bring out some confidence in us as well. This makes taking someone for coffee an ideal date.

Tips for asking someone out for coffee include finding out their coffee preferences beforehand, determining whether or not they even drink coffee, finding the perfect spot for the encounter, and being confident and bold while asking them out. This will simplify the entire process.

Asking someone out for coffee can seem daunting, and it often is, but there are a few tips that can make it easier on both people involved. There are good ways and bad ways to ask someone for coffee, and we do not have the facility here to cover all of the don’ts, but we can examine some of the ideal do’s for asking someone out for coffee.

Tips On How To Ask Someone Out For Coffee

The 5 Tips For Asking Someone Out For Coffee

Asking a person out for coffee is simple. All it takes is to ask one simple question – “Would you like to get some coffee with me?” easy, right? Well, yes and no. this interaction can be challenging, and there are many variables to consider when asking someone out for coffee.

For example, does the person even drink coffee? If they do drink coffee, do they have a coffee reference, or are they coffee enthusiasts? Where does the person live or work in relation to the coffee shop you wish to visit?  

Let’s take the time to address these challenges and learn some tips to help anyone ask someone out for coffee.

1. Does The Person Drink Coffee?

Cup of Strong Coffee

The first thing you must consider when asking someone out for a cup of coffee is whether or not the person drinks coffee. This is often a consideration that coffee lovers forget to make.

Not everyone is a coffee drinker, and many have turned away from caffeine due to the possible negative effects that it can have on a person. Others simply do not agree with the consumption of caffeine. 

With this in mind, it may be vital to find out if your prospective date is a coffee drinker or not. Ask this question before suggesting a trip to the café. If they do not drink coffee, find out what else they enjoy, and rather ask them out to do that. This is a good way to avoid an uncomfortable situation before it happens.

2. Is The Person A Coffee Enthusiast?


This is something that must be considered in the modern world of coffee. If the person you want to ask out does not only drink coffee but loves coffee, they may be very particular about the coffee that they drink and where they get their coffee from. 

Taking a coffee enthusiast to a Starbucks may not be a good idea, even if you enjoy the establishment. Many coffee enthusiasts prefer to patronize local, independent, specialty coffee houses rather than large consumer brands.

This seems unimportant, but there is almost nothing more important to those in the coffee community. For those who love their coffee, good coffee is everything.

If the person is not into coffee on this level, then any coffee shop or café will do, so long as the coffee is decent and there are some good light meal options as well.

3. Select An Establishment With Plenty Of Options

Coffee shop

This brings us to the next most crucial aspect of a coffee date: menu options. This is important because everyone has their own taste, and offering someone a visit to an establishment with very good menu options may be enough to get your foot in the door.

A very basic café with very few options regarding food or drinks is not the best way to get someone to agree to go out for coffee with you but highlighting the extensive menu or a particularly great item on the said menu is more likely to grant you a yes.

This aspect is also important because the coffee shop you visit should be able to cater to whatever taste preferences and dietary requirements your date has, as well as their mood on the given day. 

Catering to these needs is an excellent social lubricant and can be fantastic talking points for both of you.

4. Have A Backup Plan

Plan B

Flexibility is important when asking someone out for coffee. If the person does not drink coffee, is a little too into coffee for their own good, or does not like the place you want to go, it is important to have a backup plan?

Either have another establishment in mind to offer if the person is not excited about the first option, or have e an entirely alternative plan in mind that may better suit the person’s interests.

Asking someone for coffee is a good idea as it is a more casual encounter but having something else in mind in case the person is not into the idea is always necessary.

5. Be Bold!


The final and most important tip for asking someone out for coffee is to be bold. Asking a person to have a cup of coffee with you should be easy and natural, and if you seem to be uncertain or uneasy, it may be an indication to the person of things to come.

Try to be bold, casual, confident, and not uneasy at all. This will help to convince the person that you are someone they would like to spend their time with.



At the end of it all, there is no real strategy or set in the stone method for asking someone for coffee! The best way to set up a coffee date is to find out what the person likes, speak to them like a human being, and then trust your instincts after that.

Asking someone for coffee should be easy and smooth, and if the idea of it fills you with fear or dread, then you probably should not be asking this person out anyway. A coffee date is lighthearted and fun and should entice both people involved. 

Take your time, be bold, don’t rush into anything, and keep the pressure off! This way you will find yourself at the café with your desired person easily and in no time at all!